Mediation is an alternative way for couples to deal with the issues that arise from separation and divorce. The principle of mediation is that a neutral third party helps the couple to a negotiated settlement. It is often a cheaper, quicker and less antagonistic process, which can benefit the whole family. Our mediators are experienced Family lawyers and can help you to reach a settlement which the court will endorse.
- How does mediation work
First you must both agree to give mediation a try. You do not have to be on the best of terms with your partner for this process to work, but you do at least need to be able to communicate. You must both be prepared to disclose your financial situation fully and frankly, and you must be committed to resolving issues constructively and be prepared to compromise.
The divorcing or separating couple then works together with their mediator to try and resolve the issues. The mediator is highly trained and impartial; he or she does not take sides and is non-judgemental. The mediator works with and for you both in helping you to reach agreement in a non-adversarial environment. Meetings with the mediator take place with both of you in the same room, on neutral ground. Everything discussed with the mediator is confidential.
You and your mediator sit down together and try to work out a Memorandum of Understanding which covers all the issues such as what will happen to the family home, where the children will live, how they spend time with each parent, and a financial settlement. Lines of communication are established and you take control over decision-making, over your own lives and your children’s future. You will be encouraged to focus on your futures and to look forward to developing new and separate lives. The aim is to reach decisions in a constructive, dignified and non-adversarial way.